Friday, November 23, 2007

Some poetry I liked

So I found this website that has condensed versions of a lot of books. You can find it at http://www.rinkworks.com/bookaminute/ , it's funny. One of my favorites is Hitchhiker's Guide To the Galaxy by Douglas Adams.

But this one is just a poetry that I heard about and when I read it, I liked it.

Robert Frost (1874–1963). Mountain Interval. 1920.
The Road Not Taken


TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

Feeling like an idiot


Somebody take the e-mail away from me!
I have been busy lately, at home and at work. Worked till late from home to finish some work that I am not able to finish at work because I can't concentrate there with all the interruption. That means that I have slept not as much as I would have liked to. At home, I am also working on setting this routine with my husband that he is that takes care of the kid in the morning and I'm the one that does it on the evening. So every morning has been a battle to leave home without doing anything else but get myself ready. My husband complains and creates reasons why should I be the one to take care of the child in the morning and I'm the one that closes the ears and leaves the house, so he is forced to leave bed and get the kid ready for daycare. Lat weekend I had over some visitors that are very nerve racking. She is such a bitch that is impossible to have her around for more than one hour and not do something to piss her off and turn on the bitchy side of her. On the other side, my family is asking me to go visit them for Xmass and I want to but it's expensive and cold to travel over the Ocean with a small child. Sometimes I think I should go by myself but I know that they are 60% interested to see the child and 30% for me and 10% for my husband.
So in short, not a good week, feeling tired and busy. When I am like this, the button that activates "I can take care of anything" mode is turned on inside my head and I can become a complete annoying-chatty-silly-idiot person. My husband would also say bitch-frigid as well.
And one of things I should keep away when I am like this is e-mail, the thing that makes me write things that can't be modified or erased or have a chance to re-interpret. And today I sent this e-mail to my whole team and of course the big boss included there. He sponsored to pay for our XMass lunch and I made this comment that it feels like a charity case!! How idiot am I?!!! Idiot to write this on an e-mail!!
This will make me shut-up for a while but the thing is that it is said and send and it shouldn't have to!I have to learn to prepare the e-mail, keep it minimized for 15 minutes and then re-think if should I send it or not!! That's it, but, how hard is it?! Oh man, I just feel like a moron!

Friday, November 9, 2007

3 is the new 2

Oh the pressure! All my friends are having their second kids and I'm behind!!! In the last month I have called 3 friends and they very happily have told me they are pregnant with the second child. My birthday just passed and everybody wished me another child. When i talk with the moms that have 2 small children, none of them is sane. One of them was complaining about some other moms she meets in a moms-get-together-thingy place, where a lot of mom in their 40-s, well set financially and professionally (that's why they have had the children so late!), tell her that she must have another child because "three is the new two"!
The only thing these moms are happy about, is the fact that they are on the way of having the children out of diapers. And I haven't started yet... so they put some more pressure on me about that.
The last one that told me was expecting a child, is this ex-student of mine, 8 years younger than me. He already has one child and now he said "I passed you :)", and all I could say was "I wasn't racing!!".
What is the problem with the world?! Why do you have to follow patterns or otherwise you will be reminded that you are behind with the plan?! These are the steps you have to follow in order to be not bothered
1- finish school, better a Master degree
2- get married in your 20-s
3- have one child and look happy
4- have the second child and keep looking happy
5- somewhere in between, make carrier
6- start pushing your children with bullet one and continue in order

I know I want another child just for the sake of the first one, but I will start on my own time. Why people want me to have another child but no one offers any help around. Why no one wishes me more help, more peace, more sanity and more time for ME!
No one asked me what did I do on my birthday... but here is what i did:
1- my daughter in the morning didn't sing happy birthday to me because there was no cake around
2- I took the day of from work so I could enjoy my birthday but my manager asked me to take it as a day of from my vacation
3- my husband expected me to keep the child at home since I didn't go to work. But I didn't, I sent her to daycare just like any other day. He made sure to bring it out of his chest as the next day when I was buckling her up in the car seat and the strap was not set properly, he said 'at least pretend that you care about your child'!
4-I spent some time taking care of myself, just like a woman should do often, you know, waxing, facial, shopping for nice clothes. And that was the best time of my day.
5-I felt guilty and I took my child early from daycare and with here I went to buy a cake for myself. We picked the cake she liked. Later that night, when there was a lit candle on the cake, she made sure she was the one to blow up the candle but finally she did sing happy birthday to mommy!

And now I have to have another child because "I'm late with the plan". I do not know about the other couples but I am not ready mentally to have another child. Work load does not help but I do not want to be left behind with my work and my finances. I wish I was doing better with my carrier and make steps but for now just working the load. I don't know how the other do it, seriously! What am I doing wrong or not doing at all that I am not like them? I am not stepping up with carrier ,I am not having the second child.. oh, and my weight is not going down after all the care that I try to take... I better make a good list of objectives for the next year as this one didn't bring more than failures until now.