So much dust

I haven't put down much writing lately on this blog. It's not that I have started another one but I have found another place to write my thoughts, to unload the garbage in my head. I have a new friend. He is not the normal guy you would meet on a Canadian bar. He is not Canadian and has been through some interesting steps in his life. Just like when you meet someone new, there are a lot to share, to learn about the past. And that's how I have been letting my thoughts out of my fingers into the keyboard. I am really enjoying this , I like to meet people that have things to say. But... there is always a but. My but is why do I do this? Why do I find it interesting to meet new people, why do I look for to meet new people? I guess, we are all under the expectation that once we get married, all we need around is our families and our spouses. Making new friends, especially from the other gender, is seen as a sign of "cheating". Now cheating is a hard word and I do not like it. Where does it start and where does it end? What is the minimal thing we have to do to be considered as "cheating"? The fact that someone else is offering something we like to take, something we do not get it from the other already established sources and resources, means that we are surrounded by people that do not offer all what we need. I know we have families, friends, spouses, children but sometimes relations just get in a "status quo" and in order to keep moving and not fall under the everyday depression, you need new input, new ideas, new stories, new words, new points of view. Would be really boring and dull to just be happy with what you have. I do enjoy and evaluate what I have but I feel un-complete when I face a new idea, new input and I am hungry for that. I want it! Why does this looks like a sign of cheating? Lately I was reading about one of the Oprah's shows where the theme was cheating. The smart psychiatrist that Oprah has always there to give the right advice said: " We should feel offended if someone makes us a compliments knowing that we are married"... maybe was "a sexual compliment", don't remember very well the details. And that didn't fall well in my stomach. This is such a Conservative -Catholic -American oriented psychology. I am not sure but I believe that elsewhere, the psychiatrists would say different things, not so closed-in-the-box and well labeled with the stamp of the betray. I believe only people that are not confident in their relationships, that fear that their spouses will leave them, that want to keep beside them people that do not want to stay with them....only these people like this psychology, promote this way of thinking.