
Sunday, May 3, 2009
A poetry in my language

Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Age and friends
Sometimes, just because you are hanging out with someone, you automatically have created some anger/ enemy to someone else, because that someone else has issues with the one you are hanging out. Sometimes, just by non saying bad things about someone, you break the relation with someone else that has issues with that other one. All of a sudden, you are in the center of a drama. Two people that have issues with each-other, associate you with the other person. And all you have done is try to be neutral and not pick any side.
Some people like to think they are smart and well brought up that they do not need to learn anything anymore. Some others think that they need to learn a lot and need to get more matured. Some people like to consider themselves invincible, some people like to consider themselves victims.
With so much going on at my work and at my life, I am trying to find time to invest on new friendships, on new people, on new experiences that will help me in a way or another to fight the stress, to feel better about myself, to feel better for being there for someone, to think that I am maybe helping someone in a way. But if at the end of this investment I find myself hurting or being hurt, then I start questioning my ability to be sharp to find the right person to invest to. I have already created jealousies, enemies and all sort of rumors about myself for trying to invest on these people and the result is a big headache, a failure. Is almost like an economic failure in big proportions.
So what to do? All I do is try to explain myself and make sure that the other person knows I did not have bad intentions.
What do I learn? I believe is it hard to make new friends in an older age. We are not capable to see someone without interests and benefits anymore, like children do. Children are friends because they like to play together, because they enjoy each-others company, because they all make silly jokes and all laugh with them, because when someone is crying the other one goes and gives a hug to show the support, because once they get a hug, things are forgiven and forgotten.
I want to be a child again and be able to find friends like that. I want to find friends that I can be me, just the way I am.
Friday, March 6, 2009
We real cool
Thursday, March 5, 2009
February was a mess
Lots of people lost their job at my work. We, left behind, were dumped all the work they were doing. Also we needed a re-org. I had to remind some people that I had been asking to change position for a while and now seemed like the perfect time. At the time this position was offered, I was also asked to start a new job at my husbands work. Didn't like it after I found out what I had to do so, I accepted the position at my current job. The trick is that I had to close my current position and I was loaded with a couple of projects. Had to work a couple of weekends to put things in place. In the middle of all this, I learned that a good friend of mine has no idea how job gets done by a developer and a product manager. We had a fight, things were said, job is being done, friendship had a crack. Week after next I begin my new job. Moving from one pot of hot water to another pot of hot water.
At home I am adding a new bathroom. Needed a plumber, an interior drywall and tile guy. Found them. The plumber nothing to be too impressed about but the other guy is awesome. That is the kind of husband I would have wanted to have. Because he is doing good job, I think I will do some other renos at home. I had to shop around for tiles, tub, vanity and stuff. Drove a pickup truck couple of times. Made me feel like a Southern girl, just had to change the accent.
Watched some good movies, "Revolutionary road", "Slumdog millionaire", "The reader", "Valkyrie". Kate Winslet got the Oscar for best actress on "The reader". After watching the movie, not sure was deserved. "Slumdog millionaire" got more Oscars than other movies and Sean Penn said "You commy, hommo lovers" twice when he got his Oscar for best actor.
Somehow lost my track on exercising and I feel like I am going back on having a saggy belly. Perfect! Right now that the spring is trying to come and girls will start showing off their flat bellies and good skin.
A little girl named Sophia was born.
Obama visited Canada without a hat or gloves.
Played chess with a guy that has been winning for 10 years. He played against me and his son. We won and was a miracle!
The new quote I liked "Your credit card company, knows 2 years ahead about your divorce".
After all, if I go back and think about everything, this was the kind of month I would like to have. Be busy, have things to do and no time to think of stupid things. Was a mess, but sort of colorful.
Friendships, Flowers and Fights in French
A LA CLAIRE FONTAINE Chant traditionnel À la claire fontaine M'en allant promener J'ai trouvé l'eau si belle Que je m'y suis baigné Il y a longtemps que je t'aime Jamais je ne t'oublierai Sous les feuilles d'un chêne Je me suis fait sécher Sur la plus haute branche Un rossignol chantait Il y a longtemps que je t'aime Jamais je ne t'oublierai Chante rossignol chante Toi qui as le cœur gai Tu as le cœur à rire Moi je l'ai à pleurer Il y a longtemps que je t'aime Jamais je ne t'oublierai J'ai perdu mon amie Sans l'avoir mérité Pour un bouton de roses Que je lui refusai Il y a longtemps que je t'aime Jamais je ne t'oublierai Je voudrais que la rose Fut encore au rosier Et que mon douce ami fût encore à m’aimer Il y a longtemps que je t'aime Jamais je ne t'oublierai À la claire fontaine M'en allant promener J'ai trouvé l'eau si belle Que je m'y suis baigné Il y a longtemps que je t'aime Jamais je ne t'oublierai | AT THE CLEAR FOUNTAIN Traditional song At the clear fountain I went for a walk The water was so nice That I took a bathe I've been loving you for so long I will never forget you Under the leaves of an oak I dried myself On the highest branch a nightingale was singing I've been loving you for so long I will never forget you Sing nightingale sing You with a gay heart Your heart feels like laughing Mine feels like crying I've been loving you for so long I will never forget you I lost my fried Without deserving it For a bunch of roses That I refused from him I've been loving you for so long I will never forget you I would love that the rose be still on the bush And that my sweet friend be still loving me I've been loving you for so long I will never forget you At the clear fountain I went for a walk The water was so nice That I took a bathe I've been loving you for so long I will never forget you |
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
Because there is someone
It reminded me this song that I always loved. Is in Albanian and my mom always was puzzled on why do I like it. Well, here mom, on days like that, I like this song.
Thanks for calling :)
| Not looking for someone else Long time I haven't seen her, |
Sunday, January 4, 2009
Copy-Paste
What your social life says about the economy
by David K. Randall and Jon Bruner, Forbes.com
Tuesday, December 30, 2008 provided by forbes
How does an economic slowdown affect day-to-day tasks like deciding what to wear, what to listen to and what to eat? Those questions are the driving force behind what's known as social economic indicators.
The most famous social indicator is the hemline index, developed in the 1920s by George Taylor, an economist at the Wharton School, which showed that the length of dresses increased when the economy slowed.

Recent studies have purported to show that the tempo of popular songs slows, that beer and pasta sales increase, and that Playboy's Playmate of the Year tends to be older and heavier during bad economies.
But these indicators are of little value if you're wondering where the economy is going. Instead, they're a much better sign of where the economy has been.
“The problem with these metrics is that people will continue to feel bad into an expansion,” says David Kelly, the chief market strategist for J.P. Morgan Funds.
Kurt Karl, the chief economist for Swiss Re, agreed, saying, “There are many spurious connections that can last for a little while, but there's no social indicator with any common sense underpinning to it.”
The lag between economic expansion and the time those gains are felt through the wide economy can last between a few months to over a year, experts say. Consumers spooked by a layoff may be more careful about their spending in the future even if they find employment again, for instance.
That will push the Consumer Confidence Index down. Or, there may be other reasons why growth is overshadowed. The S&P 500 grew almost 30 per cent during the Carter Administration, but inflation and the Iran hostage crisis contributed to widespread unhappiness.
Consumers can also feel good about an economy that's slowing or a bubble that's bursting. A&E launched its show Flip This House in the midst of the housing bubble, which contributed to a widespread idea that it was easy to improve and resell a house for a quick buck well into the declining housing market. Some of the biggest failures from the dot-com bust were the result of overeager investors bidding up shares for no reason other than exuberance.
All of this means that the latest consumer confidence numbers don't necessarily portend an extension of the downturn. The University of Michigan's index of consumer confidence dropped to its lowest level since 1980 in November, but that most likely reflects bad news from the last month or two rather than prospects for the near future.
Other types of social indicators like divorce rates, fertility rates and drug crimes are of little value in determining growth as well, according to a 1998 study by Johannes Fedderke and Robert Klitgaard in Economic Development and Cultural Change, a journal published by the University of Chicago. The study, which looked at over 25 countries, found that the chief social indicators that go along with economic growth are strong individual rights, political stability and efficient government institutions.
What cultural clues should we look for to know that we're once again in a period of growth? Advertising is one. If marketers think that they can sell more products by emphasizing fun or luxury rather than value, they expect that those moods have a greater cultural relevance and will thus lead to more sales.
Popular car sales is another. While vehicle sales is a standard metric for economists to gauge the health of the economy, the specific type of vehicles sold often reflects the national mood. Sales of small, fuel-efficient cars typically make up a greater proportion of overall sales during downturns, while larger vehicles or luxury models do better during times of growth.
But given its track record, maybe we should look to A&E. Once it starts broadcasting Makin' Do With What You Have, we'll know we're in a period of growth.
